In the early stages of marriage, couples are very excited and happy. But with the passage of time, they begin to realize that it is not an easy task. It is a complex relationship that will suffer happiness, sadness, and complex situations. The following are some tips for a married couple to keep the marriage in a good position. Both in good and bad times.
The intention of marriage matters a lot. So if the bond of marriage is bound with the right intention i.e. for pleasing ALLAH (S.W.T) then the marriage will itself become an act of worship. ALLAH will be pleased with them. and they will experience peace, stability, and happiness throughout.
Good Manners at Home:
Too often spouses treat other people outside the home with kindness but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to their own spouses. They should remember that one’s spouse is also another brother or sister in Islam and that the rights and duties that apply to the general brotherhood (sisterhood) of Islam should also form the basis of the marital relationship.
Before marriage, people often have impractical thoughts about their spouse-to-be, expecting excellence in all aspects. This not often, if ever, plays out in truth and can lead to needless problems. We should recall that Allah (S.W.T) created humans as imperfect beings, which means that many mistakes will be made throughout a lifetime.
Expectations and effort towards each other:
By turning the table and expecting imperfection, we will be pleasantly surprised and pleased when our spouse is much more than we ever hoped for. This, in turn, will lead to satisfaction within the marriage.
As we all know that no one is gifted with all of the best traits. Importance should be on the positive qualities that a partner possesses. Encouragement, admire, and thankfulness should be spoken on a regular basis, which will build up these qualities and be advantageous in raising others.
An effort should be made to ignore negative character, as the Prophet (S.A.W) said,
“A believing man should not have any malice against a believing woman. He may dislike one characteristic in her. but may find another in her which is pleasing.” (Muslim)
Expressing one’s self is thought to be a very “Western” idea. Some people may complicate in accepting this fact. but it is significant to be open and honest about one’s feelings, both positive and negative. The lines of contact should always be open. Any concerns should be brought to the awareness of the other partner as soon as they arise. Sometimes what begins as a simple concern may grow into a major problem. if it is not addressed quickly and properly. The “silent treatment” has never been the remedy for anything. happiness