When marrying, each becomes the other’s lifetime companion. It is the major advice to each couple that they should understand and appreciate that ALLAH has brought them together and that their destiny in life has now become one. Whatever the circumstances, happiness or sorrow; health or sickness, comfort or hardship all events are to be confronted together as a couple with mutual affection and respect. No matter how wealthy, rich and prosperous another couple may appear.
Tips for Wife:
The advice for the wife is that she should happily accept her husband, his home and income as her lot. And should always feel that her husband is her true beloved and best friend and well wisher in all family decisions.The advice to the husband is that he should accept his wife as his partner for life and not cast a glance towards another.
Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ said:
“Your BLOOD, your WEALTH and your HONOR are sacred among you, as sacred as this day of yours in this month of yours in this land of yours. Let those who are present convey it to those who are absent; perhaps he will convey it to one who has more understanding than he does.”
(Agreed upon, from the hadeeth of Abu Bakrah).
How to have a Happy Marriage?
Advice for couples is that, a happy marriage is one in which couples find ways to tackle and resolve challenges without being disrespectful to the other. Couples can have their tough talks as long as they don’t cross the lines in disrespecting each other.
“The most complete believer is the best in character, and the best of you is the BEST TO HIS WOMENFOLK.”
(Tirmidhi #1162 and verified)
It is advice to newly wedding couples that many people are not even aware and knowledgeable about the rights that both husbands and wives have over each other. Because many couples neglect to learn Islam teachings about marriage. and rights and obligations of their spouse before they hit roadblocks in their marriages . and once they get stuck in this trouble then they start seeking those answers. It is advice to all couples that they should learn Islamic teachings about marriage before they get into relationship.
How to overcome problems?
The important advice is that if the relationship between couples is hitting hurdles, both of them have to invest the time and effort to learn about these rights and obligations. The couples should apply this advice in to their lives and use the reminder to make a permanent mental note to help each other become conscious of how intentionally or un intentionally they misbehave and violate your spouse’s rights.
Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ said :
“How pure are you and how pure is your fragrance. How great is your majesty and your sanctity. By the One in whose hand is the soul of Muhammad (SAWS), the sanctity of a believer in front of Allah is more than your sanctity – His possessions and his life and we always think good of him.”
(Reported by Hadith Ibn Majah)
And the last but not the least advice to the couples is that they should learn rights and obligations towards each other. So, not be disrespectful to the other even when they are dealing with tough situations.