Spiritual harmony in marriage if exists between spouses, brings serenity, peace, and fulfillment at home. Yet, to maintain it between you and your spouse, frequent nourishment is needed.
The Prophet (PBUH) said, “No house has been built in Islam more beloved in the sight of Allah than through marriage.”
Steps to plant and nourish spiritual harmony
Contemplate with your spouse or spouse-to-be about what you want in a spiritual relationship.
– What are your values?
-What are your intentions and desires in marriage?
– Do you enjoy having conversations about spirituality and faith?
– Do you enjoy sharing your spiritual path?
This doesn’t mean you have to be exactly the same in your practices, but there should be enough similarity that you’re on the same page. After all, it’s not about the number of deeds. The relationship is more about how you treat each other.
2. Pray for your marriage
Praying for a blessed, peaceful and loving marriage brings lots of bounties for your relationship. One of the best Duaa you and our spouse could daily remember is:
اللَّهُمَّ أَلِّفْ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِنَا، وَأَصْلِحْ ذَاتَ بَيْنِنَا، وَاهْدِنَا سُبُلَ السَّلَامِأخرجه أبو داود (صحيح
O, Allah! Join our hearts, mend our social relationship, guide us to the path of peace.Sahih (Al Albani)
3. Pray for one another
Remembering each other in your duaa and wishing the wellness and Hidaya (guidance) for your spouse can undoubtedly bring spiritual harmony and intimacy to your marriage.
دَعْوةُ المرءِ المُسْلِمِ لأَخيهِ بِظَهْرِ الغَيْبِ مُسْتَجَابةٌ، عِنْد رأْسِهِ ملَكٌ مُوكَّلٌ كلَّمَا دَعَا لأَخِيهِ بخيرٍ قَال المَلَكُ المُوكَّلُ بِهِ: آمِينَ، ولَكَ بمِثْلٍ.رواه مسلم
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “The supplication of a Muslim for his (Muslim) brother in his absence will certainly be answered. Every time he makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed for this particular task says: ‘Ameen! May it be for you, too’.Muslim
|Riyad as-Salihin 1495|
|In-book reference||: Book 16, Hadith 31|
4. Worshipping together
Having any sort of worshipping acts together can help you both grow spiritually and grow closer. When you have common goals, actions, or routines in your daily life, it strengthens your bond as a couple.
You could pray together and chat afterward peacefully. You could read the Quran to each other, listen to an online Islamic studies session and discuss it afterward.
Try to find a time that works for both of you to nourish this habit.
5. Have a mentor
Having another wise Muslim couple, scholar, or counsellor to look up to and seek advice when necessary helps maintain a healthy relationship. They will help you think objectively and have a growth mindset.
Having a vision and purpose in your marriage as a couple makes the journey more bearable and worthwhile.
. وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
سورة الروم 21
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.
SURAH AR-ROOM 30:21
The previous verse states that the basis of marriage is tranquillity, affection, and mercy. All could be achieved by nurturing your marriage.