Marriage is considered to be a great blessing from Allah (SWT). Allah (SWT) says in the Qur’an,
“And one of His signs is that He has created for you, spouses from amongst yourselves so that you might take comfort in them and He has placed between you, love and mercy. In this there is surely evidence (of the truth) for the people who carefully think.” (Surah 30, Verse 21).
Through the wedding, Allah has blessed the couple to find happiness and achieve modesty and chastity.
Weddings are supposed to be a joyous occasion. But how do we arrange and celebrate a marriage in an Islamic way? This blog post will InshaAllah cover a few points.
Regarding weddings in Islam, the Prophet (SAW) said,
“There is no marriage except with a guardian.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood (2085), at-Tirmidhi (1101) and Ibn Maajah (1881), and that, one must, “proclaim marriages” (classed as hasan by al-Albaani).
Scholars are of the opinion that announcing a marriage is one of the conditions of the marriage being valid, as the Prophet (SAW) said, “There is no marriage except with a wali (guardian) and two witnesses of good character” (Saheeh by al-Albaani). From these hadith, we learn that regarding the arrangement of the wedding, two Muslim witnesses of good character, and the bride’s’ wali (guardian) must be arranged for. Furthermore, we should proclaim the marriage, and this can be done by inviting our friends and families to join in the celebration of the wedding. Wedding in Islamic way
How should it take place???
Regarding the party itself, there are no specifics. One is free to do as per their culture. However, we must stay away from what is against the Sharee’ah in this regard (i.e., pagan rituals, innovations, anything that causes shame or embarrassment, etc.for). One must not be extravagant but should arrange a wedding party according to his/her means. Allah (SWT) says we must protect ourselves from spending well beyond our means. Many people go into large amounts of debt just so they can show off and have a large party. But
“Indeed, the wasteful are brothers of the devils, and ever has Satan been to his Lord ungrateful” (17:27).
Therefore we must protect ourselves from spending well beyond our means. Many people go into large amounts of debt just so they can show off and have a large party. But It is not Islamic. Weddings should not be about appearing wealthy, but about the coming together of two people in matrimony by the grace of AlForhe couple to begin their journey together with blessings, the wedding in Islam should be as pleasing to Allah as one can arrange the marriage in an Islamic way.
One should stay away from having music at their wedding. Singing without music is allowed. The dress of the bride and groom must be appropriate and follow the guidelines of dress set by the Sharee’ah. There should not be mixing or dancing of men and women together. The bride should not do what is forbidden to beautify herself such as plucking the eyebrows, wearing hair extensions, nor should the dress be too expensive or revealing in any way.
Islam is the middle path; it is not too extremely rigid nor free. A Muslim’s life must reflect this middle way as well. Thus the wedding in Islam must be balanced as well. One should spend according to their budget and be careful as to not fall into debt. One should also take care in ensuring that Islamic practices are followed in the execution of the event. Indeed, our success only lies with the pleasure of Allah (SWT), and that is the best way a new couple can begin their journey together. Wedding in an Islamic way