Story Of A Married Couple…
Once upon a time, there was a beautiful married couple. They both were very pious and loved each other deeply. After some days of marriage Sana felt bored at home she wanted to do something for the ummah. One night after eating dinner, she asked her husband’s permission for doing a job, but Khalil did not say anything. The next day Khalil did not go to his office. He had locked his self in the room and Sana heard so many noisy voices from inside the room. But Sana had no idea that what was going on.
After Maghrib prayer, Khalil asked Sana to get ready. During driving, he asked Sana what kind of books she liked to read. She told him that she liked to read Islamic literature. Soon after, Khalil went to an Islamic bookstore and asked her to buy some books for him. Next, they went to the Barnes and Noble bookstore and collected many different kinds of books. She also bought some Middle Eastern, Indian, and Chinese cookbooks.
That evening they ate dinner together at their favorite restaurant, and after this, they went to the masjid for praying. When they returned home Khalil carried all the books they had bought earlier and placed all the books in the room. He asked Sana to go to sleep but she could hardly sleep! She was wondering what was happening on and was tempted to go to the room and see but had eventually fallen asleep. At around 4am Khalil called for Tahajjud prayer. Afterward, he asked her to close her eyes and took her to the room he had been in all day, and asked her to open her eyes. She opened her eyes and was amazed to see a lovely small library. Her husband had made her an office at home! He had even bought a laptop for her and set everything up, ready to use!
Khalil turned to her and said, “Dear Sana, I love you for the sake of Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala. I am also responsible for you and I want to protect you always. You have asked my permission to work and I respect you. however, I want to make you happy. I hope you like my gift. I do not want you to work for any other man but me. Still, if you feel that you want to work outside the home, then I will not force you. It would however make me upset.”
“Men are the protectors and maintainers [qawwaamoon] of women, because Allah has given the one more [strength] than the other, and because they support them from their means…” (Qur’an 4:34)
Sana smiled and frankly said that he can work for her. She thanked him for the arrangements and agreed to work at home. Every day when Khalil came home, he would find his wife busy in books taking in the knowledge and wisdom that they gave her. With the passage of time, she started to give him advice from what she had learned and which was to prove beneficial for his company. Khalil also taught her about his business and even allowed her some responsibility with some of the projects at work. He paid her generously for her little work and spent lots of time with her so that she would not feel alone.
This arrangement worked successfully for both husband and wife, and in time, they had four beautiful children.
One day, Khalil had a car accident and he suffered from a knee injury. The doctors said that he would not be able to walk for at least six months or so. Sana did all the work of home alone and takes care of her husband. After a month they suffered from the financial crisis and Sana asked her husband to join a school for teaching. Her husband permitted her.
Sana would work all day at the school and then come home to take care of her children and Khalil. With the passage of time, her husband had recovered from the accident and thanked Sana for everything. Now he was able to go to work. Sana leaves her job and stayed at home. Khalil was grateful for what she had done and thanked her for being such a wonderful and supporting wife.
The Prophet (PBUH) made every individual in the Islamic Society responsible for those under his or her authority in such a way that no-one, man or woman may evade responsibility (Ideal Muslimah, 190).
He (PBUH) said:
“Each of you is a shepherd, and each is responsible for those under his care. A ruler is a shepherd; a man is the shepherd of his family; a woman is the shepherd of her husband’s house and children. For each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for those under his care.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
The Prophet (Pbuh) indeed spoke the truth when he said:
“This world is nothing but temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this world is a righteous woman.” (Muslim 10/56)
Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said:
“O people! Fear Allah concerning women, Verily, you have taken them on the security of Allah and have made their persons lawful unto you by Words of Allah! It is incumbent upon them to honor their conjugal rights and, not to commit acts of impropriety which, if they do, you have authority to chastise them, yet not severely. If your wives refrain from impropriety and are faithful to you, clothe and feed them suitably.” (Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum Page 541)