Happy married life is an important goal of Islam. A happy, blessed family can concentrate on upbringing their kids in an Islamic manner and thus build a foundation of the household system for the society.
Happy Married Life Mentioned in Quran
Allah SWT has created our pairs among us so we may find peace and enjoyment in them. As Allah says in the Holy Quran:
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. [Surah ar-Room 30:21]
This ayah gives a valuable lesson for a happy married life. Allah has put between the husband and wife passionate love (Muwadda) and Rahma (mercy). It is a great sign of Allah SWT, and we should be thankful to Him for such a great blessing.
Top 5 Tips to a Happy Married Life in Islam
We observe that when the marriage seems to get old, we start losing that effect among spouses. Let’s discuss five important secrets to a happy married life in light of Islamic teachings and how to keep that friendship spirit alive even after years passed.
Keep That Newly Married feeling Sustained
At the beginning of the marriage, it’s very passionate. You are obsessed with your spouse. You don’t seem to have time for anything else. Your friends call, but all they listen is a voice mail. For around six to eight months you are out of reach. You have this Just Got Married attitude towards your spouse. But then as marriage goes further, what keeps the marriage alive? It isn’t the same anymore. Because other obligations are coming in, your kids, your job, your career, etc.
So, to keep your marriage sustained you need to have Rahma (mercy) towards your wife or husband, courtesy between both, ignoring the faults and focusing on positive habits.
A Simple Smile Can Change Your Day
Sisters, always greet your husband with a smile when he enters the home. Remember he’s dealing with a lot of fitna in his workplace, public transport, etc. Your husband goes to the office, and he’s greeted by a well-dressed, smiling secretary, on the way back home he sees billboards with beautiful women smiling at him. The moment he enters the home, and you greet him with a frown on your face; this creates an entirely negative impact on your happy married life. It stabs the husband when you give him the impression that you don’t care, and he’s very disturbed by this. The husband might not say something, but it hurts them. What happens, in the end, is that they get frustrated over every small matter.
The same goes for husbands. Do come home in a good mood and keep your office worries outside the home.
Remember Your Worst Enemy
Yes, did you forget him? Satan. It is his favorite task to separate husband and wife and creates misconceptions between them. So the next time you seem to engage in a fight; just seek refuge from the evil, and he will run away.
Narrated by Jaabir (RA) The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said:
Iblees places his throne over the water, then he sends out his troops, and the one who is closest in status to him is the one who causes the greatest amount of fitnah (tribulation or temptation). One of them comes and says, I have done such and such, and he says: You have not done anything. Then one of them comes and says: I did not leave him until I separated him and his wife. Then he draws him close to him and says: How good you are.” [Narrated by Muslim]
Forgive and Forget
It is a tough part but the most crucial one to keep a blessed married life. We are humans, and none of us is perfect. We do have the difference of opinions regarding matters of life. After all, it is possible to have a fight, but the best are those who forgive and forget.
Narrated from Abu Huraira (RA) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
“No one forgives, but Allah increases him in honour, and no one humbles himself before Allah but Allah raises him in status.” [Narrated by Muslim]
Let go Of Your Rights
Focus more on your responsibilities and your rights will be given automatically. Although this might not happen in the early years of marriage, you should have firm faith in Allah SWT, and he will make it easy for you. If someone mistreats you and you still respond in a healthy manner that will inevitably affect them with time.
In a Muslim community, the art of being a believer and sustaining our image is to take care of our wives or husbands. Most of the marriages end up because the man doesn’t take care of his wife or the wife doesn’t take care of people’s rights. It starts with small conflicts and ends up with a separation thus breaking the whole unit of happy married life. May Allah make us the best wives and grant us the best husbands.