The relationship between a husband-wife is unlike any other. The Qur’an speaks beautifully about the bond between a husband and wife. Upon reflection of these verses, we can recognize the purpose and beauty of marriage.
Allah (SWT) says, “And one of His signs is that He has created for you, spouses from amongst yourselves so that you might take comfort in them and He has placed between you, love and mercy. In this, there is surely evidence (of the truth) for the people who carefully think.” (Surah 30, Verse 21). Allah (SWT) has created for each of us a spouse, and He explains that one of the goals of marriage is that the husband-wife find comfort in each other. The world is difficult for a believer, filled with trials and tribulations. Allah (SWT) made our spouses so that we can find support and comfort with them in times of difficulty. The idea of love how it happens can also be explained by this verse when Allah says, “and He has placed between you, love and mercy.” I take that to mean that the love that can develop between husband-wife is from Allah (SWT), a sign of His existence, His love, and His mercy towards us.
Every word of the Qur’an is meticulously chosen for a reason. Allah (SWT) describes the relationship between husband-wife as, “They (your wives) are a clothing (covering) for you, and you too are a clothing (covering) for them” (Surah 2, Verse187). Here Allah (SWT) uses the word, which translated is clothing/covering. The relationship of husband-wife is reflected in the utilization of this word. The purpose of clothes or covering is to protect you, keep you warm, etc. This is the type of relationship that must exist between a husband-wife. It must be a relationship where both are protected, both emotionally and physically by each other.
The relationship between husband-wife is thus of mutual respect and love. The husband is the leader of the household and is responsible for his family. He is in charge not only regarding providing financial aid, but also emotional and spiritual guidance to the house. Allah (SWT) has made the husband the leader of the family, “Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth…” (4:34) And instructs the believers, “O you who believe, guard yourselves and your family members from a fire whose fuel is people and stones. Over it is ferocious and powerful angels. They do not disobey and of Allah’s orders and do whatever they are told” (66:6).
The husband-wife relationship is one of love and mercy, and from that love originates a miracle of life. Allah (SWT) says in the Qur’an, “It is He who created you from one soul and created from its mate that he might dwell in security with her. And when he covers her, she carries a light burden and continues therein. And when it becomes dark, they both invoke Allah, their Lord, “If You should give us a good [child], we will surely be among the grateful” (7:189). It is important for the husband-wife to be graAllateful for the love that has been bestowed on them.
In this way, the Qur’an beautifully illustrates the husband-wife relationship. Marriage must be a bond of mutual respect and love. The husband and wife must journey through the difficulties of this life together so that they may reach the ultimate destination of Jannah together. Both must comfort and support each other through their journey and show gratitude to Allah (SWT) for love He blessed them with. The husband-wife must be among those who supplicate, “Our Lord! Grant us from our wives and our descendants’ coolness of the eyes and make us an example for the people of piety” (25:74).