Institution of Marriage is one of the strongest social institutions. It actually serves as a foundation for other social institutions like home and family which play a crucial part in shaping up the lives of individuals as well as society on the whole.
This hadeeth perfectly explains this point in the following words;
قالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلّمَ): ما بُنِيَ بِناءَ فِي الإِسْلامِ أَحَبُّ إِلى اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلّ مِنَ التَّزْوِيجِ.
The Messenger of Allah (S) has said, “There is no foundation that has been built in Islam more loved by Allah, (The Greatest and Noblest) than marriage.”
Not only ALLAH has blessed this institution of marriage. but ALLAH himself has guided about the conduct of this relationship in the Quran in the following words;
وَأَنْكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنْكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِنْ يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ
“Marry the single people from among you and the righteous slaves and slave-girls. If you are poor, Allah (SwT) will make you rich through His favour; and Allah (SwT) is Bountiful, All-Knowing.” (Surah 24, Verse 32)
Here, ALLAH subhana hu wa tala gives us another important hint about one of the greatest fears related to marriage, the fear of money!
Excuses for Staying Single:
The majority of youngsters of this generation present this excuse for staying single ” But I’m not stable yet”, ” But I have goals in my life”, ” how am I gonna provide for her ? my business is not strong enough to support a family”.
For these excuses, ALLAH has beautifully explained that it’s not you who provides, and neither it is your responsibility. It’s the responsibility of ALLAH and here ALLAH communicates in very clear words that those who fear hunger and money should get married and ALLAH will take care of their financial matters.
This point can be better understood by comparison of a person who works and maintains his personal life as well by himself with a person who is focused on his business or job. because he has someone to take care of the rest of his personal needs. Of course, the person with a companion will be in a better situation. ALLAH says in Surah 30 verse 21;
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
“And of His signs is that He has created spouses for yourselves from your own selves so you might take comfort in them. and He has created love and mercy among both of you. In this there is evidence (of the truth) for the people who (carefully) think.” (Surah 30, Verse 21).
So the institution of marriage doesn’t provide you only with partnership but rather with companionship. This verse says that the spouse gets “comfort” from each other. And then it ends with a note “search for signs, think”.
Let’s leave this question for you to think about.
How many dimensions of comfort from your spouse can you count in your institution of marriage ???