Islam is the key to open all the locked doors that you face in your life and so is the case in the matter of marriage. Where Islam emphasis on being tied in the bond of marriage; it also teaches you how to hold this bond and make it the source of happiness for you. Here are some ways which help us all in making our marriage bond strongest.
Islam teaches us to live for Allah
And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me. (Adh-Dhariyat, 51:56)
Islam gives us a higher purpose to live for, other than just to enjoy this worldly life. This gives the marriage a higher meaning: to earn the pleasure of Allah through the marriage . Because being a good spouse is important to Allah, as marriage can be seen as a form of ibadah, or worship, of Allah. Being a Muslim helps us to live by the values of respect, kindness, honesty and patience that benefits the marriage greatly.
Being a good Spouse is what highly praised in Islam:
The rewards of being a good wife or husband are one of the greatest rewards in Islam. Consider the following hadiths:
When any woman prays her five, fasts her month, guards her body and obeys her husband it is said to her: “Enter paradise from whichever of its doors you wish.
The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best character, and the best of you are those who are the kindest to their wives and families.
The Messenger (PBUH) said,
“In the sexual act of each of you there is a charity.”
The Companions replied:
“O Messenger of God! When one of us fulfils his sexual desire, will he be given a reward for that?” And he said,
“Do you not think that were he to act upon it unlawfully, he would be sinning? Likewise, if he acts upon it lawfully he will be rewarded.
Next comes the importance of patience and prayer:
In Quran Allah Says:
O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.(Al-Baqarah, 2:153)
Islam teaches us to turn to Allah when we face difficulties in life. Islam helped us to make dua to Allah, asking Him for His help, when one has problems in marriage. Islam also teaches us to be patient during ones marital difficulties. Patience helped us to survive the storms of the marriage. Looking back personally, I realize that, for my marriage, many of my problems in marriage came from my misunderstanding of my husband. If I had impatiently reacted out of my misunderstandings, then my marriage may not have survived. So Patience REALLY HELPS!!!
Islam teaches us to not to be so WORLDLY:
And put forward to them the example of the life of this world; it is like the water (rain) which We send down from the sky, and the vegetation of the earth mingles with it, and becomes fresh and green. But (later) it becomes dry and broken pieces, which the winds scatter. And Allah is Able to do everything. (Al Kahf 18:45)
Whatever you have will end, but whatever is with Allah is everlasting. And We will surely give those who were patient their reward according to the best of what they used to do. (An Nahl, 16:96)
Money-related problems are the most common cause of the divorce. Islam teaches us to live a simple life and to not base our happiness completely on material possessions. This view puts less financial stress on our family and helps us to focus on what is important to us: worshipping Allah.
Also remember, ones self-worth comes from relationship with Allah, taqwa (God-consciousness). We don’t need to have a “perfect” marriage or a “perfect” life in order to feel good about ourselves. As long as we are on the path of Islam, we am enough 🙂
Be Thankful for ALL you have:
Islam encourages us to look for the good in the spouse and to focus on the positive. Feeling and expressing gratitude towards them makes our marriage stronger and happier.
Therefore remember Me. I will remember you. Be grateful to Me and never show me ingratitude. (Al Baqarah, 2:152)
If you give thanks, I will give you more.” (Ibrahim, 14:7)
“Allah The Almighty does not look (with mercy) at a woman who is not grateful to her husband when she cannot live without him.
Self-reflection (muhasabah) and humility is highly encouraged in Islam:
The Commander of the Faithful, ‘Umar bin al-Khattab said:
Criticize and appraise yourselves before you are criticized and appraised on the Day of Judgment, and weigh out your deeds, before they are weighed out for you.
Islam encourages us to reflect on our inner selves and actions. We are not always right, and it obviously takes humility to accept this. Self-reflection and humility are absolutely crucial for a successful marriage, because they help us to improve ourselves and to consider another point of view.
Hope this all helps you to build a deep and strong bond with your spouse for the life time and build a strong family as well In Shaa Allah. 🙂