The creator, the sustain er of this universe (Allah) provide us with individual rights and limits. And Islam came to establish these two important fundamentals for human beings and also for Woman marriage.
One of the rights set by Allah Almighty is
“Wives and husbands have rights on each other”.
Before Islam Status of Women:
Exactly about 1400 years ago Qur’an was revealed on our beloved Prophet (SAW). During that time, the Arab surrounded by the dark lights of KUFR. The worst condition was their inhumane treatment of their women. Burying girls alive, arguing if women even had a soul, blame and cursed their wives for their miseries, after Islam it was clear by Allah Almighty that women should provide with equal rights as men. And these also include their rights after Woman marriage.
We can say that a man is a slave to his passions, and a woman is captive of her loveliness. In our society woman is not even provided by the right to choose her life partner, she is told to obey her husband. Mind setup of a girl from her childhood to woman marriage made by her parents, friends and the society she lives. And the society always teaches her about the “duties” but not her rights before or after woman marriage.
The Holy Qura’an says:
“The women have almost the same rights over men as men have certain rights over the women in kindness.”
Why People Don’t Follow the Rules?
When Allah made it clear then why don’t we follow the rules? Why do we just ask the women to follow blindly and to compromise at any cost? Marriage is the beautiful relation.The affection that Allah has created in the hearts of the two spouses is one of His great signs for the people of understanding. And it is based on mutual love and understanding of two individuals, not just one (the woman).
And among His signs are that He created for you from your selves mates that you may attain calm unto them and He placed between you affection and compassion. Surely in that are signs for a people who reflect. ( Sura Ar-Rum: 21)
Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said:
“Best among you are those who behave well with the women.”
Every husband has the obligation to provide for the sustenance of his wife after their marriage. She should supply with adequate food, a comfortable home, suitable clothes and other essential amenities of life. He should always bear in mind that this woman has disassociated herself from her parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends and has joined him to share all the ups and downs of life. Hence, it has become his duty to look after her basic needs and comforts.
Husband Wife Relationship:
So, The husbands, who never bother for the sustenance of their wives, commit a severe crime of depriving Allah’s creatures of their rights. Such people would be dealt with severely in the Court of Allah.
The Holy Quraan says:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means.” (4:34)
Woman after her marriage is now the responsibility of her husband, and he should look for her needs and happiness. Confining the wife in the four walls of the house and thinking of her as property should not be encouraged regardless to this she should be given equal rights. After marriage, her views must be given equal importance as that of her husband, in buying anything, at marrying their children, in any aspect of life coming ahead on a beautiful journey in a couple’s life.
So basically, a woman must be given equal rights in choosing her life partner.She should be treated with love and affection after marriage. So that in this blessed relation there will not remain any space for compromise, but just the happiness.