misunderstandings | Misunderstandings in Couples

By habibkhan
April 13, 2015

Misunderstandings between couples are a serious issue and play a major role in destroying homes. A misunderstanding causes distance in relationships. One may feel frustrated and at loss as to how to get about resolving them. Perhaps the one unintentionally hurt their partner due to misunderstandings.
Allah says:

“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.” [30:21].

Misunderstandings between couples do not lead to a happy life. It is necessary to remove misunderstandings between them as soon as possible just to live a happy life.

Tips for Happy Married Life:

Here are some tips through a couple can lead a happy life by just apply them to their lives:

Listening more carefully to your partner is a key to clearing up the misunderstanding that is controlling your relationship. One should listen to try to understand, rather than focusing on how you want to respond to oppose what your partner is saying.
Create mutual expectations in your relationship to clear up and avoid misunderstandings in the future.

While text messaging and emails are popular ways of communication, they can lead to misunderstanding in a relationship so try to avoid electronic communication. Because through electronic communication, expressions and tone cannot be judge properly. And this act may lead to misunderstandings.
If your partner does something to confuse you or says something unintentionally that hurts you, then do not jump to conclusions about what behavior or words mean. perhaps they were trying to say something else but failed to communicate properly. By not jumping to conclusions, you will clear up misunderstandings in your relationship. As well as learn to better understand each other.

So a couple should try to follow these tips just to prevent their relationship from misunderstandings.
Quran says:

“…And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable.” [2:228]