Every daughter-in-law should treat her mother-in-law as her own mother. She should pay respect to her, obey her commands. If the old mistress of the house rebukes her on some matters, she should not answer back. During the lifetime of her husband’s parents, she should never think of dividing the family by raising the demand for a separate house. She should be kind to her husband’s mother. And she should be friendly with her mother-in-law.
Status of Mother:
The mother, who spent her entire life raising and caring for her children. She finds it difficult to accept that the daughter-in-law, who has never shouldered such responsibilities, is able to properly care for her son. The mother-in-law could have different values, principles, or even ideologies from the daughter-in-law but the daughter-in-law can compromise with her and please her with this small gesture.
Duties of Daughter in Law:
The daughter in law can please her mother-in-law by using kind words when talking to her.
“Have you not considered how Allah presents an example, [making] a good word like a good tree, whose root is firmly fixed and its branches [high] in the sky? It produces fruit all the time, by permission of its Lord. And Allah presents examples for the people that perhaps they will be reminded.” [Quran 14: 24-25]
The Muslim woman who truly understands the teachings of her religion knows that the person who has the greatest right over a man is his mother. So she helps him to honor and respect his mother by honoring and respecting her mother-in-law. Because in this way she will do a favor for her husband and herself too. Nothing could please a decent and respectful man more than seeing strong ties of love and respect between his wife and his family.
A Muslim wife may find herself tested by her mother-in-law and other in-laws. And if they are not of good character then, in this case, she must be obliged and would be meritorious to treat them in the best way possible.
Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ said:
“Whenever forbearance is added to anything, it adorns it, and whenever it is withdrawn from something, it leaves it defective.” [Muslim]
Try to treat your mother-in-law kindly, just as she would your own mother. And she should have tolerance towards her, especially during the first months of the marriage. Until she wins her pleasure and therefore becomes one of those who are beloved to her mother-in-law and this would make her husband love her a lot.