Do Love Marriages are better or Arranged marriages?
It would be difficult to me answer but!.
We saw our parents spending a perfect life and its result of arrange marriage, and on the very another hand we saw a happy couple in the result of love marriage too. What is the myth of love or arranged marriage that one is better? Whether to choose a partner of your choice or the one your parents choose for you well it is a very controversial question but all controversies end up with a single answer “what you want. “What ALLAH allowed you”? Whether the person you are getting married is compatible or not?
Many sins are common nowadays due to the immense pressure of arranged marriages in families. People just nurture their lust till the age of marriage if parents allow their children to choose their partners and to make their relationship halal.
On the other side, love marriages are not getting enough support from elders because they are the ones who rebels against family tradition. Everyone have full right to live their life parents should respect their child opinion. and a person must get to know the fact of their parents suggestion.
Suggestions for Youngsters:
The easy way to cope with this problem:
- Tell your parents about your requirements if you want to have an arranged marriage. Arrange marriage is allowed in Islam if bride and groom both agree.
- Try to achieve your targets with halal way, never settle for harm relations.
- Pray to ALLAH and he will make the way easier
- Always be realistic and do not fantasize.
- Try to change taboos and be realistic.
Your partner name is destined. Try to receive your spouse with a pure soul and happy parents. As quoted in Quran:
“If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.” (4:03)
Happy married life is not a deal of love or arranged marriage. but it’s all about success in the wedding. So, If you have these three ingredients, you may have the most fruitful and happy marriage.
May ALLAH guide us to the right path and give us the best partners of life.(Ameen)