Engagement is simply the time before the wedding, when people start arrangements and preparations.But it does not involve any physical contact between the bride and groom.Basically engagement is the proposal for marriage.It is an initial agreement and a promise that all parties are required to respect.It is the first step in marriage. Due to utmost importance of marriage, Allah paak made regulations for its introductory steps and specified some regulatory shareeah rulings that all parties are required to stand for. Engagement is the normal introduction to marriage.
Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ said:

Announce marriage and conceal engagement.”

It is the basic rule that the man proposes engagement and this is mentioned in the Quran and the sunnah. ALLAH paak says:

{There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves.} [Quran 2: 235]


Importance of Engagement:

An engagement is kind of contract, nobody else can ask for the engaged girl’s hand in marriage. Engagement is a common tradition in our country, it is also present in Islam. As a matter of fact our prophet Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ married Hazrat Aisha after an engagement period of about three years.
Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ said:

“When one of you proposes to a woman, if he could look at of her to see what urges him to marry her, and then let him do that.” [Ahmad, Abu Daawood, Al-Haakim and Al-Bayhaqi]

This preserves the woman’s modesty, respects her pride, safeguards her honor, and secures her from being deceived into marrying an unrighteous man.

Period after Ceremony:

After the this ceremony the first attempt is to set up a relation between the families.The parties send each other presents and preparations for the wedding. The sign for the couples are the rings.The man can only wear a silver ring since it is not appropriate for him to wear a ring made of gold.

After the engagement, couple should not only see each other and talk to each other alone. but also avoid shaking hands with each other. Even during the marriage ceremony unless marriage contract is signed, they should not violate the boundaries of privacy. Only after the marriage contract goes into effect, will they be halal to each other.

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