Good manners are one of the most attaining happiness in the home. Good manner is very beneficial between the spouses, and with the children, and brings results that cannot be achieved through harshness.
Hazrat Aisha R.A said:
“The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: ‘When Allah (SWT) wills some good towards the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.”
[Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/71; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 303]
Helping your wife with the house work is count in good manners. Many men think that housework is beneath under women. and some of them think that it will weaken their status or position if they help their wives with house work. But actually if a man helps his wife in house work then it count in good manner of the men.
Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ said:
“Sew his own clothes, mend his own shoes and do whatever other work men do in their homes.”
[Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/121; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4927]
Things in Bad Manners:
Some men demand food instantly from their wives. when the pot is on the stove and the baby is screaming to be fed; they do not pick up the child or wait a little while for the food. This act of the men counts in bad manners. A man with good manners will not do this.
Hazrat Aisha R.A said :
“He used to serve his family, and when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray.”
[Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 2/162]
Showing affection towards your wife and children is one of the things that lead to creating an atmosphere of happiness and friendliness in the home. If a man shows good manners towards his family then it is obvious that his children will also adopt good manners which are the best thing.
The ways in which Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ showed affection towards young children are too famous. Because He often used to show his affection towards Hasan and Hussain. This is probably one of the reason why the children used to rejoice when Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ came back from travelling, they would rush to welcome him.
“Whenever he came back from a journey. the children of his household would be taken out to meet him.”
Good manners of women include staying at home and avoiding going out without the husband’s permission. A women with good manners stay quite in front of her husband. and she is also obliged to protect her and her husband’s honor.So, the righteous women protect her honor and her husband’s possessions when he is not present. and that counts the most in good manner of women.