Marriage is a sacred bond between a man and a woman, which makes it legal for both of the life partner to enjoy and live happily. Allah Subhana Wa Tallah describe it in such terms that make this an eternal relationship that is full of love, affection, security, compromise, respect and understanding between two people. This bond is defined in Quran in such way:
And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: Verily in that are signs for those who reflect. (Quran 30:21)
The society in which we are living is the society of those Muslims who are following Islam rules made by their parents or their elders. They don’t even try to explore what our religion says about the particular matter and implies primarily on woman’s life, focused mainly on the issue of choosing their life partners. A woman’s sociology-economic status does not afford her liberties in choosing their life partners. She is not allowed to choose her life partner. In our society marriage is just a step up the economic ladder for one of the parties, which is mostly the male dominant.
Despite all this, religion Islam has provided full freedom to a woman to determine their life partner.
A young girl came before the Holy Prophet perplexed and anxious and exclaimed:
“O Messenger of Allah. . . From the hand of this father…”
“But what has your father done to you”, the Prophet asked.
“He has a nephew”, she replied, “and he has given me in marriage to him before consulting me in the matter”.
“Now that he has done it,” said the Prophet, “you should not oppose it. Agree to it, and be your cousin’s wife.”
“O Messenger of Allah! I do not like my cousin. How can I be the wife of a man whom I do not like.”
“If you do not like him, that is an end to the matter. You have full authority. Go and make the choice of a man whom you would like to marry.”
“By chance”, the girl finally admitted. “I very much like my cousin and do not like any other person but because my father did this thing without asking my consent. I have purposely come to put questions on this matter and to get your replies and hear this decision from you, and so inform all women that henceforth fathers have no right to take a decision on their own and give their daughter in marriage to anyone they like.”
On the occasion when ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib (a.s.) presented himself to the Holy Prophet to ask for the hand of Zahra (a.s.), the Holy Prophet said,
‘Several persons have come to me to ask the hand of az-Zahra (a.s.) but by the displeasure of her countenance she has refused them. Now I shall inform her of your request.”
The Holy Prophet went to his daughter and put the matter before her, az- Zahra did not turn her face away in disapproval this time, and, by keeping silent and undisturbed, expressed her consent. The Holy Prophet came away from az-Zahra reciting the takbir. (Allahu Akbar, Allah is Great).
Islam is the greatest service to women and has given complete rights to her in every aspect of life. Islam has given them complete freedom, individuality, independence, right to give their opinion.