“And among His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find comfort and repose in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.” (30:21)
- Allah has indeed created man and woman to be the natural matching parts of the other, they are natural companions.
- Allah has destined that they will find comfort and relax with one another.
- Finally Allah tells us that he has put love and sympathy between them.
These indeed are signs for us.
The first foundation for a Muslim marriage is Islam.
The second foundation of a Muslim marriage is that the physical, emotional and mental bonding and friendship must be definitely based upon love and compassion, only then can husband and wife truly find comfort in one another.
The above are what a man and a woman must seek to maintain in their lives in order to complete Allah’s fate for his creation.
“It is He Who created you from a single self and made from him his spouse so that he might find rest in her/dwell with her. Then when he covered her she bore a light load and carried it around. Then when it became heavy they called on Allah, their Lord, ‘If You grant us a healthy child, we will be among the thankful!’” (7:189)
- The husband should find rest and calm in his wife.
- The wife should seek to be a source of calm and rest for her husband.
- They join, she conceives and they make a dua.
“On the night of the fast it is lawful for you to have sexual relations with your wives. They are clothing/covering (libaas) for you and you for them….” (2:187)
Libaas is used for the covering term above; in this context it would seem to imply understanding and closeness, concealment of faults, confidentiality and ornamentation for one another. We act as a covering and safety for each other from fornication and any other such danger by sexually fulfilling one another.
And those who pray, “Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.”(25:74)